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There are many myths about grief. Some are due to existing traditions, long-held beliefs, or expectations. Over the years I have had the privilege of listening to so many stories from grieving people, and I have come to wonder where people have got their ideas about how and when a person should grieve. So, let’s talk about the myths of grief, here are just a few: Myth #1: Grief has a timeline. The Truth:  Grief does not follow a calendar. There is no six-month mark where the

What Are the Differences? What many people don’t realize is that not all unexpected grief moments are the same. Two of the most common experiences are grief bursts  and pop-up memories . While they may seem similar on the surface, they often feel very different inside. Understanding the difference between the two doesn’t make grief disappear---but it can help us meet with more compassion when these moments arrive, especially when they show up without any warning.  Grief Burst

There is a question that many widowed people carry quietly, sometimes for months or even years: Is it possible to love again after losing my spouse or partner? And if it is…,should I? These questions often arrive wrapped in other fears and doubts:  Am I being disloyal to the person I loved?  Am I moving on too fast---or not fast enough?  Is this a genuine desire for connection, or am I just feeling lonely? There are no universal answers, but there is space for reflection,

A new year has a way of asking questions we may not feel ready to answer. What happens now? Am I supposed to feel better at this point? Am I making progress in my grief-----or am I somehow stuck? When you’ve lost someone you love, the turning of the calendar can feel heavy. There is often an unspoken pressure to treat January as a fresh start, a clean slate. But grief doesn’t follow the calendar. It doesn’t reset because the year has changed. So how do we know if we are makin